Separations will happen, be it from relationships at work, home, personal, what have you...... after all life is dynamic.
It's not about if it's the right thing or the wrong thing. It's a function of one or several factors...... choice, need, want, role, fit, connect or whatever, and this applies to any relationship. Can be at work when you need to let employees go, in business when partners part, or in personal equations when you need to move on. Whatever the occasion, exit with grace is just....well.....just the more graceful thing to do.
Sure it takes effort.....maybe some sensitivity, patience and love. Don't let the moments decision hijack all of those. Harsh, rude, mean, sullen, silent.... all those, at any time are not desirable, but especially so when letting go. Understand .......it is already hard. Can we atleast make the process gentle........ make that extra effort.....do it with love.
I once had this experience in Google. A really tough employee, a senior person who everyone was almost scared of because of his vile temper. We needed him out. It took me four months of crazy effort to ensure he had a smooth exit, and so smooth that we continued to be in touch for a while even after, though he knew I was the only cause for his exit. I'm not bragging, but exemplifying, because I do strongly believe it's a fair thing to do. If nice and kind are good things, they are even more so at such times.
Do what is needed to enable the other to land on their feet.
Exit with grace and love is very difficult and rewires not only maturity but also deft handling. That you demonstrated all of these in your writing as well as life situation speaks volumes.
ReplyDeleteHey Mars, thanks for those nice words. The rewires I'm guessing is typo, but an interesting one, a freudian slip of sorts I'd say :)
ReplyDeleteVirile temper??? Is it a typo or a new word. Though does sound interesting.
ReplyDeleteHey Anon, thanks for that catch....meant vile, and this ones not a freudian slip :)
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