Thought this made a good read. It’s from an article by David K William
Happiness is a state of mind.
Truly happy people maintain a positive mindset even in full view of the
negatives in life. These people are optimists with strong ethics and high
integrity. They are kind, loving, caring and compassionate to everyone indiscriminately.
Looking at them, you will realize how
confident, content and at ease they are with whom they are. What keeps them
positive and brimming with a sunny disposition is that there are certain things
that truly happy people just don’t care for.
1. They don’t care for amassing
material possessions.
Sure, owning luxury cars,
mansions and a load of cash in the bank is nice. But, these things don’t
guarantee happiness and success. Truly happy people are more interested in
using their resources to add value in people’s lives and living a decent,
modest life. If the money keeps coming, they are happy. If the money doesn’t
come, they are still happy and content.
2. They don’t care for getting
anything in return.
Everybody enjoys an unexpected
compliment or reward. However, while others crave praise and rewards, truly
happy people serve and help others without expecting anything in return. For
truly happy people, the reward is knowing that they have added value and
enriched the life of someone.
3. They don’t care for conforming
to society’s expectations.
People are constantly under
pressure to meet society’s expectations, which is often stressful and
overwhelming. Who you associate with, work for and even marry is often dictated
by quiet societal expectations. Truly happy people don’t care for conforming to
society’s expectations and standards. They simply look within themselves and do
what feels right in their heart. By listening to their gut and following their
heart, they are able to create deep satisfaction and happiness.
4. They don’t care for people’s
prejudices.
Some people harbor
prejudicial notions about cultural, social and religious “outroups” where they
don’t belong. Truly happy people don’t care for any of that. They treat
everyone equally without discriminating based on incorrect attitudes or
stereotypes like sex, race, religion, age, sexual orientations and
socioeconomic status. Truly happy people judge you for who you are and what you
are capable of—not where you are from or the color of your skin.
5. They don’t care for others’ approval
or validation.
Happy people don’t really care
what you think about them because they know their own self-worth. They listen
and factor in what others have to say, but don’t seek anyone’s validation. They
know that if you live for people’s approval, you will die from their rejection.
Truly happy people simply do what needs to be done and never let naysayers
discourage them.
6. They don’t care for being
right all the time.
Truly happy people don’t mind
being wrong sometimes. After all, no one knows everything and has all the
answers in life. It is by accepting you are wrong that you open doors to learn
what is right. Truly happy people listen and apply sound ideas that are
sometimes contrary to their own. This facilitates learning, allows for good
co-existence and boosts happiness.
7. They don’t care for
un-conducive environments.
Truly happy people don’t care for
environments that are not conducive for positive engagement or time out. They
know such environments are stressful, reduce happiness levels and can even be
harmful, including noisy, dirty and polluted surroundings. Instead, truly happy
people value and protect environments that make positive actions and choices
easy and enjoyable, such as peaceful places like parks.
8. They don’t care for social
comparisons.
Truly happy people don’t compare
themselves to others. They may seek to learn what others are doing better so
they can replicate similar success, but they are always keen to focus on their
own progress and praise others on theirs. This makes them happier and protects
them from jealousy, resentment and an unhealthy sense of superiority over
others.
9. They don’t care for meddling
in peoples’ business.
Truly happy people don’t meddle
in other people’s business. Sure, they will come to your aid if you ask for it
and try to intervene when you are clearly headed in the wrong direction, but
they primarily focus on getting their own house in order before attempting to
help others. This ensures they are focused and helps avoid conflicts with
people who want to be left alone.
10. They don’t care for gossip.
Truly happy people don’t care for
gossip and rumor mongering. They are content with their own lives and have no
desire to concern themselves with what is going on in someone else’s life. The
only people who care for gossip are shallow people whose personal lives are not
fulfilling enough.
11. They don’t care for toxic
relationships.
Toxic relationships not only
entail obvious vices like physical abuse and name-calling, but also subtle
things like constant complaints and mood swings that drag you down. Truly happy
people don’t care for all types of toxic relationships because these
relationships only bring toxic results. Truly happy people surround themselves
with optimistic people who want more out of life and are able to build healthy
relationships that bring joy.
12. They don’t care for holding
grudges.
All of us have been hurt by the
actions or words of another at some point. While holding a grudge and
resentment against these offenders is easy, truly happy people know this is not
the best option. They know holding a grudge is a surefire way to poison your
thoughts and quite possibly your actions. Truly happy people forgive and
move forward. This means rising above the issue and freeing yourself from
resentment. As Confucius said, “To be wronged is nothing, unless you continue
to remember it.”
13. They don’t care for lies.
You might say everyone is guilty
of telling a lie at one point or another. That may be so, but some people tend
to tell lies more readily than others. Truly happy people don’t care for this
latter group of people and their lies. Lives fall apart fast when they are held
together by lies and deception. Truly happy people understand this fact and
know it is better to offer no explanation than bend the truth or give false
account.
14. They don’t care for
complaining.
Complaints are the fruits of an
un-contented life. Truly happy people don’t care for complaining because they
are content with their own lives. They don’t care for constant whiners either
because these people are a vexation to the spirit. Truly happy people are
simply grateful for what they have and hopeful for what will come even when
things are not going their way.
15. They don’t care for revenge.
Finally, if you truly want to
lead a happy life, you cannot afford to actively seek revenge against another
person. Truly happy people leave revenge up to fate. They make peace with the
issue and instead actively seek ways to put that negative energy into more
positive, productive use.
Remember…
Life is not always smooth
sailing. Sometimes things won’t go your way. That is just how life works. But,
happiness is always an option even when you think it’s not. Choose to be happy
from today!
Happiness is so difficult because it is self driven . Rather like the driver less car if Google which is programmed to sense obstacle,directions to the destination,self dependent.
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Nice to see you back md .....And because it's self driven as you've rightly said, it's also as easy. It's a choice :)
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