Monday, October 31, 2016

Deepawali

Diwali brings with it a warm glow, not just from the lights and crackers, but also from deep within. Whatever it's story and origin, with theme being the triumph of light over darkness, knowledge over ignorance, hope over despair, good over evil...... it's so beautifully represented through the lighting of deepams (earthenware oil lamps)

A quintessential part of diwali for us has also been lighting of this lamp, every year for the last twenty or so years. And I was so thrilled to come across an old diwali picture (as I was browsing through some old albums...of the physical kind )

Dhruva and Diksha....... on different diwalis




The beauty of the passage of time.........

A Footpath Transformed

Come Diwali and the footpath in front of our apartment in Hyderabad, goes through major transformation. It's so amazing how simply and beautifully the flower sellers take over the place.

Two days before Diwali, was tent being put in place


By evening the flowers were in


By the next day I knew Sai Krishna and family :)


Two days..and almost all flowers sold, they said they sold about five quintals of flowers


Sure, we bought from them too...diksha putting up the flower thoranam at home


In fact one year, we'd left the car parked on the road, and by evening it had become part of their floral display.....they had their flowers all over the car as well.... guess nothing will stop them.  

And what's best, they just stay there all of three days, including sleep there the nights. That's commitment to business I guess. And to us, it just adds more color and flower around !

Friday, October 28, 2016

From Mom's Old Album

A visit to Hyderabad seems to be like digging into a treasure chest. If one time was finding an old Readers Digest Publication with which I'd spent hours and hours of growing up time.....another was finding remnants of my old stamp collection, which enabled some wonderful reminiscing. 

This time round it was old photographs that my mom had dug out. One that she especially kept after seeing the post on The Trek........is an old school time picture of Sujata and me, and yes, a b&w picture to boot.

                        

This brought back not just one or two or three, but pretty much an avalanche of memories. Right from walking to school together every morning for years on end....... buying our first cycles together,......playing the rough and tough lagori with the boys..... hours and hours of rummy and bluff......shuttle in the galli.........competing over the carrom board....... arguments over scrabble........ and chess, there were often times chess games have sat overnight before completion......exchanging first Mills and Boons....... giggling over childhood crushes.......sharing notes on first boyfriends........the list is endless. 

It now suddenly explained to me the answer to the question I raised on the trek...'it's on her bucket list, what am I doing here?'.....the question just fell away. Almost seemed like, If not me, who?

Sujata bol....aur kya hai teri bucket list pe :)

Wednesday, October 26, 2016

Emotions are Contagious

This was an interesting read, especially so because this has been an often discussed point between me and a friend....'on how much others moods and energies affect us...how much we can guard ourselves against others moods and energies...... and how inspite of the best insulation there's some peoples moods that just seem to impact us no matter what'

This write up from Daniel Goleman and others definitely clarifies. Apparently emotional contagion is a reality....and it happens at a more subtle level than we know.

'Most emotional contagion is typically at a subtle, almost imperceptible level; the way a salesperson says thank you can leave us feeling ignored, resented, or genuinely welcomed and appreciated. We catch feelings from one another as though they were some kind of social virus.

Emotional intelligence includes managing this exchange; "popular" and "charming" are terms we use for people whom we like to be with because their emotional skills make us feel good. People who are able to help others soothe their feelings have an especially valued social commodity; they are the souls others turn to when in greatest emotional need. 

Research has indicated that the mood of the one who was more expressive of emotions gets transferred to the more passive partner.

Sigal Barasade, a researcher at the Wharton School of the University of Pennsylvania, noted “There was this woman, I didn’t even report to her, but she was on my same floor, and she was just so intense and negative all the time. And then one day, she went on vacation. I literally felt my shoulders lower , the whole department felt more relaxed and happy, she said. “Then she came back, and it all got bad again.” And thus, a research obsession was sparked.

How does this magical transmission occur? The most likely answer is that it happens at an unconscious level, through an out-of-awareness motor mimicry of their facial expression, gestures, tone of voice, and other nonverbal markers of emotion. The changes are evident through electronic sensors but are typically not visible to the naked eye.

When two people interact, the direction of mood transfer is from the one who is more forceful in expressing feelings to the one who is more passive. Also, some people are particularly susceptible to emotional contagion; their innate sensitivity makes their autonomic nervous system (a marker of emotional activity) more easily triggered. This ability seems to make them more impressionable; sentimental commercials can move them to tears, while a quick chat with someone who is feeling cheerful can buoy them (it also may make them more empathic, since they are more readily moved by someone else's feelings).

Just as Daniel Stern found in watching the synchrony between attuned mothers and their infants, the same reciprocity links the movements of people who feel emotional rapport. This synchrony seems to facilitate the sending and receiving of moods, even if the moods are negative. 

In short, whether people feel upbeat or down, the mood of the one who was more expressive of emotions passes onto the more passive partner, and the more physically attuned their encounter, the more similar their moods will become.

Tuesday, October 25, 2016

A Trek.....

Last Sunday, Sujata and I did a Trek. A trek up a hill at Channanarayana Durga, around 100 kms from Bangalore.

It was one of those once-in-a-lifetime experiences.
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Soon after we got back, I was like "Sujata, bol......theen words mein bol, kaisa tha" (tell me the experience in three words). And she goes...'Exciting'....'Achievement'.......and......and.......beech mein bahuth kuch (lots in between).

And then adds 'beech mein life and death'. Well, I guess an artist, and a poet will say it just right, and she did. 

My take on those three words:

The 'Excitement', in hindsight was all before the trek, all in the anticipation.....because we were completely ignorant, and knew nothing about what a trek comprised of, and had used normal english to understand the word 'moderate' in climbing difficulty......a faux pas for first time trekkers, and definitely so for the not so young trekkers. The fact that it was organized by the Bangalore Mountaineering Club should have set off the alarm bells (but that's if you're listening I guess :)

And 'Achievement', was all after, as we were just glad to have even been able to complete it, and more essentially make it back alive, and in one piece ( what can be bigger achievement after atleast thirty minutes of each moment expecting to lose foothold and roll down the hill). I already had Jack-and- Jill-went-up-the hill ...came- tumbling-after, humming in my head.

What was in between was this horribly tough and terrifying experience, with several this-is-it moments.

Going up was pure undiluted tough........ steep, hot, exerting, breathless....with a couple of distress stops too, when Sujata got dizzy on a steep slope. We have our guide screaming down at her saying, 'no, no, you can't lie down, you'll loose balance and roll', and me saying....'leave her alone, she needs to'.......it was madness.

Then one part of me (actually mostly the whole of me) thinking...I could have been sitting at home and writing......I never intended or even wanted to trek in my life...... We were just planning a historical site visit.....when did this switch happen......this was on her bucket list and not mine.....what the hell am I even doing here :)

Then the crazy effort to keep all those thoughts at bay and focus on the task at hand....focus on the next foothold...focus on keeping the body aligned and alert.......I don't think I've done too many things on sheer mental focus and will, as I did this one. If I ever thought I wasn't strong on will power, that became myth.

And then the coming down.......that was blood chilling, as a single loss of foothold meant a neat roll down. There were places where you had no idea where to even put your foot, as there wasn't even that one centimeter of ledge to get a foothold. (sujata in fact did some stretches sitting, which to me looked even more dangerous).

And our guide then adding his mountaineering gyan 'koyi ghir raha hai tho, usko girne dho, pakadna math, aap bhi giroge' (if someone falls do not hold, else you'll fall too) and to me that sounded like, if you fall, I won't be holding.


That's the Channanarayana Fort right on top


One thing I must mention though. After Sujata had her dizzying spell and all, we managed to get ourselves to a half way mark......one lone tree with some semblance of shade. There she was given energy booster liquids and stuff, and I completely settled down to wait till the rest of the group returns to join them on their way down. 

But within five mins she was like 'chal..utt', and I was so amazed....amazed at the focus and desire that made her overcome the dizzy spell and decide to go ahead. And no amount of sensible talk could change her mind, not that I tried much...it was after all her day. 

And that rest of walk, though as steep and exerting, was so well worth it....in terms of not just the beauty of the fort ruins, the spectacular views, but also to enable that sense of achievement that we carry with us today. Hats off to your grit and determination Sujata !

That was the entire group, seventeen of us.


The upward walk

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Sujata, at the top...the fort entrance
                                                      

Some local folks we met within the fort, and from who I was desperately trying to get if there was an easier way down
                       

A part of the fort ruin that reminded me of the King Louie song from Jungle Book


On the way up, somewhere in the beginning......later, even to turn back for a picture we had to find a flat surface, as there's good chance the head would spin if we turned suddenly...might sound exaggerated, but trust me, it was just that.


One of the spectacular views

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Some boulders at the base 


This was a total surprise ...a lake, right on top of the hill, inside the fort

                                

A little old temple within the fort ruins, the only shade available, where we had our lunch

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Mateesh, an avid and professional mountaineer....one of our guides too. He just so belongs in the mountains...amazing to see that connect that he has.


A scary moment. As you can see, once I let go off that rock, there's really nothing to even hold onto for a long way down.


There's the moment at the top..when S still had the energy for a V :)


A spectacular rockface, and we could actually go under it all the way


If I had to think of an encapsulated instance of pushing boundaries, this would surely be great example. Beyond comfort zone.....in constant awareness of risk.....stretching to achieve.

And yes, each muscle creak the next day (and trust me, they all made themselves felt) was an excruciating but endearing pain...the kind you love to feel, as it's reminder of what caused the pain and the achievement that came with it.  

Sunday, October 23, 2016

Core Values

How much do we live in accordance with our own values?
How much are we even aware of what our core values are?

This question stood out for me in three different contexts in the recent past, and each time I saw how pivotal it is to one living life per one's own choice.

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One was in our counselling course, where we not just understood how it works, but also did an exercise which enables us to identify and articulate our own values, and then to also become aware of possibly conflicting values, and figure out how we want to align. And then to also be aware of how each plays out in your dealings not just with the external world, but also within yourself.

(For instance, I'd recently met someone to who 'respect' was core value, but she was so focused on respecting others, that she'd lost sight of where the line at respecting herself was getting compromised.)

Another was in an article by a business leaders coach, titled 'How To Make Powerful Decisions Based On Values', where he says....'rarely does he find decisions not taken because of lack of information, but more because of an underlying fear, all blocked by 'what if's'. Caution turns into paralysis and we dread the decision. We may even begin to wish it away.'

And he writes: 

"When I’m working with my clients and they are hesitating making a decision, we always go back to what’s important to them and the things they love.

In our work together they have created a vision of their work and life that represents their greatest values. When we talk about their vision and values, their stress level goes down and the answer to their current problem becomes clear."

A lovely quote from the write up

“There are two basic motivating forces: fear and love. When we are afraid, we pull back from life. When we are in love, we open to all that life has to offer with passion, excitement, and acceptance.” ~ John Lennon

The third was from the book 'When Breath Becomes Air'. When the author, a neurosurgeon, is diagnosed with third degree lung cancer and his treatment is being charted out, his oncologist repeatedly asks him 'what are your values Paul'...I want us to decide on treatment based on your values. You have a few months left, so choose right. Do you want to be able to operate, do you want to write, or you want longer time with family. And he has to then clearly recognize what matters. And he makes those tough but clear decisions.

And I was left thinking how we don't have to be almost dying to really know our values. Can we just choose to live like that....on regular basis, daily basis. It enables higher possibilities of authenticity and joy. 

Saturday, October 22, 2016

New Decisions

Reading Seth on 'Making a new decision based on new information' really resonated with me, as it's a philosophy I hold dear to my heart. In my mind it reads thus:

I make a decision on Monday. The situation shifts on Tuesday. Be capable of changing the decision on Wednesday.

Truth is most people don't. In fact people even take pride in saying, 'once I've decided I don't change my mind', and that's a trait that's socially glorified and over hyped, and thus lends itself to many a situations staying status quo even when it's screaming out for change.

In fact I've seen this thrown at me when I wanted change, in personal as also work situations "but, you're the one who said this, you wanted it, it was your decision". ( true, but that was two years ago/ twenty years ago/ last week)

This is also why I don't subscribe to 'will power' as a tool 'to do'.....I'd much rather continue to 'want to do'. It's a way more potent driving force.

Here's excerpts from Seth which set off this train of thought:

"Making a new decision based on new information. This is more difficult than it sounds.

To some people, it means admitting you were wrong.

(But of course, you weren't wrong. You made a decision based on one set of facts, but now you're aware of something new.)

To some people, sunk costs are a real emotional hot button, and walking away from investments of time, of money, and mostly, of commitment, is difficult.

(But of course, ignoring sunk costs is a key to smart decision making).

And, to some people, the peer pressure is enough to overwhelm your desire to make a better decision. 'What will I tell my friends?'

A useful riff you can try:

Sure, I decided that then, when I knew what I knew then. And if the facts were still the same, my decision would be too. But the facts have changed. We've all heard them. New facts mean it's time for me to make a new decision, without regard for what I was busy doing yesterday, without concern for the people who might disagree with me. This decision is more important than my pride."

Friday, October 21, 2016

The Last of Mahabs

This one I'll do in just pictures.....random moments from the trip....moments where you touch base with that space at one notch deeper level, but those that don't really fit into any of the specific stories

The room I stayed in is behind, the one under the tree.....an absolute first in terms of shack stay experience


Some pictures from a walk on the beach: A volleyball game on in full earnest


A crab that looked like it was staring straight at me


A father and daughter working in earnest on their fishing nets


A small temple I chanced upon, done up for dasara..... looked like the quintessence of a place of worship........simple, serene, powerful, peaceful.........spent almost an hour there as I had it all to myself ....loved it

                           

An idol there that I thought was so beautiful


Mahabs is known for locally made chappal, and diksha was getting one for herself. Be it intricate old sculptures or making of chappals....looks like the eagerness and interest is on par.


Salt making, on the way to Velankanni. It's kind of amazing what a thin line divides the blue (in this case grey) of the sea and the sky


Karaikal a port town.... with lots of what I thought were fishing trawlers


A boat building facility we saw on the way


One of the other temples at Kanchi which had some amazing scuptural work. The chain in sculpture is always so fascinating. 


The shore temple at the distance....as seen from Bob Marley's, and all the fishing paraphernalia and tourists in between


An odd fish that got washed ashore. This pic diksha sent me yesterday.


Unusual art by these two, again at Bob's...silhouettes of a cat on one pillar, and mice on the other


Sunrise from Bob Marley's


And that brings to end the chronicles on a fascinating trip........ one that was physically, intellectually, emotionally and spiritually enriching and fulfilling.

Thursday, October 20, 2016

The Third Self

Excerpts from a write up I totally enjoyed ......

Maria Popova on  'The Third Self' by Mary Oliver 

In the wholeheartedness of concentration, the poet Jane Hirshfield wrote in her beautiful inquiry into the effortless effort of creativity, “world and self begin to cohere. With that state comes an enlarging: of what may be known, what may be felt, what may be done.” But concentration is indeed a difficult art, art’s art, and its difficulty lies in the constant conciliation of the dissonance between self and world, a difficulty hardly singular to the particular conditions of our time. 

Two hundred years before social media, the great French artist Eugène Delacroix lamented the necessary torment of avoiding social distractions in creative work

But just as self-criticism is the most merciless kind of criticism and self-compassion the most elusive kind of compassion, self-distraction is the most hazardous kind of distraction, and the most difficult to protect creative work against.

How to hedge against that hazard is what beloved poet, Mary Oliver explores in a wonderful piece titled “Of Power and Time” .

Mary Oliver

Oliver writes: It is a silver morning like any other. I am at my desk. Then the phone rings, or someone raps at the door. I am deep in the machinery of my wits. Reluctantly I rise, I answer the phone or I open the door. And the thought which I had in hand, or almost in hand, is gone. Creative work needs solitude. It needs concentration, without interruptions. It needs the whole sky to fly in, and no eye watching until it comes to that certainty which it aspires to, but does not necessarily have at once. Privacy, then. A place apart — to pace, to chew pencils, to scribble and erase and scribble again.

But just as often, if not more often, the interruption comes not from another but from the self itself, or some other self within the self, that whistles and pounds upon the door panels and tosses itself, splashing, into the pond of meditation. And what does it have to say? That you must phone the dentist, that you are out of mustard, that your uncle Stanley’s birthday is two weeks hence. You react, of course. Then you return to your work, only to find that the imps of idea have fled back into the mist.

Oliver sets out to excavate the building blocks of the self in order to understand its parallel capacities for focused creative flow and merciless interruption.

She identifies three primary selves that she inhabits, and that inhabit her, as they do all of us: the childhood self, which we spend our lives trying to weave into the continuity of our personal identity ; the social self, “fettered to a thousand notions of obligation”; and a third self, a sort of otherworldly awareness.

The first two selves, she argues, inhabit the ordinary world and are present in all people; the third is of a different order and comes most easily alive in artists — it is where the wellspring of creative energy resides. 

It is occasional in some of us, tyrant in others. This self is out of love with the ordinary; it is out of love with time. It has a hunger for eternity.

Oliver contrasts the existential purpose of the two ordinary selves with that of the creative self:

Say you have bought a ticket on an airplane and you intend to fly from New York to San Francisco. What do you ask of the pilot when you climb aboard and take your seat next to the little window, which you cannot open but through which you see the dizzying heights to which you are lifted from the secure and friendly earth?

Most assuredly you want the pilot to be his regular and ordinary self. You want him to approach and undertake his work with no more than a calm pleasure. You want nothing fancy, nothing new. You ask him to do, routinely, what he knows how to do — fly an airplane. You hope he will not daydream. You hope he will not drift into some interesting meander of thought. You want this flight to be ordinary, not extraordinary. So, too, with the surgeon, and the ambulance driver, and the captain of the ship. Let all of them work, as ordinarily they do, in confident familiarity with whatever the work requires, and no more. Their ordinariness is the surety of the world. Their ordinariness makes the world go round.

In creative work — creative work of all kinds — those who are the world’s working artists are not trying to help the world go around, but forward. Which is something altogether different from the ordinary. Such work does not refute the ordinary. It is, simply, something else. Its labor requires a different outlook — a different set of priorities.

Part of this something-elseness, Oliver argues, is the uncommon integration of the creative self — the artist’s work cannot be separated from the artist’s whole life, nor can its wholeness be broken down into the mechanical bits-and-pieces of specific actions and habits. 

Intellectual work sometimes, spiritual work certainly, artistic work always — these are forces that fall within its grasp, forces that must travel beyond the realm of the hour and the restraint of the habit. Nor can the actual work be well separated from the entire life. Like the knights of the Middle Ages, there is little the creatively inclined person can do but to prepare himself, body and spirit, for the labor to come — for his adventures are all unknown. In truth, the work itself is the adventure. And no artist could go about this work, or would want to, with less than extraordinary energy and concentration. The extraordinary is what art is about.

No one yet has made a list of places where the extraordinary may happen and where it may not. Still, there are indications. Among crowds, in drawing rooms, among easements and comforts and pleasures, it is seldom seen. It likes the out-of-doors. It likes the concentrating mind. It likes solitude. It is more likely to stick to the risk-taker than the ticket-taker. It isn’t that it would disparage comforts, or the set routines of the world, but that its concern is directed to another place. Its concern is the edge, and the making of a form out of the formlessness that is beyond the edge.

Above all, Oliver observes from the “fortunate platform” of a long, purposeful, and creatively fertile life, the artist’s task is one of steadfast commitment to the art:

Of this there can be no question — creative work requires a loyalty as complete as the loyalty of water to the force of gravity. A person trudging through the wilderness of creation who does not know this — who does not swallow this — is lost. He who does not crave that roofless place eternity should stay at home. Such a person is perfectly worthy, and useful, and even beautiful, but is not an artist. Such a person had better live with timely ambitions and finished work formed for the sparkle of the moment only. Such a person had better go off and fly an airplane.

She returns to the problem of concentration, which for the artist is a form, perhaps the ultimate form, of consecration:

It is six A.M., and I am working. I am absentminded, reckless, heedless of social obligations, etc. It is as it must be. The tire goes flat, the tooth falls out, there will be a hundred meals without mustard. The poem gets written. I have wrestled with the angel and I am stained with light and I have no shame. Neither do I have guilt. My responsibility is not to the ordinary, or the timely. It does not include mustard, or teeth. It does not extend to the lost button, or the beans in the pot. My loyalty is to the inner vision, whenever and howsoever it may arrive. If I have a meeting with you at three o’clock, rejoice if I am late. Rejoice even more if I do not arrive at all.

There is no other way work of artistic worth can be done. And the occasional success, to the striver, is worth everything. The most regretful people on earth are those who felt the call to creative work, who felt their own creative power restive and uprising, and gave to it neither power nor time.

Tuesday, October 18, 2016

Kanchipuram

Visiting Kanchipuram was an intensely emotional experience. 

It holds one of my most vulnerable and scariest of experiences, and a visit there reopened it all...... and proved way more cathartic than what I had been prepared for. And to add, on a hot day, we were caught in a sudden cloud burst.....thunder and lightening and pouring rain......and it just seemed to be symbolic of the turmoil within.
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These pics are courtesy Google

The incident is from a long long way back, seventeen years back to be precise. We were on a family visit to kanchi.....and while in one of the temples, for a brief while, we lost Diksha. She was three. It was almost an entire half hour before we even discovered that she wasn't with us. It was crazily crowded, and we'd gotten separated in the queues ....and I thought she was with Ravi and he thought she was with me, and in that mess, we found she was with neither. The toughest was to hold panic at bay. Even the recall can turn me cold.

After some frenetic searching.... and when the fear was peaking out, as we'd searched almost everywhere.........we found her near the inner exit of the temple....... standing against a pillar, a good distance from where we had last seen her. And her standing there, pressed against the pillar to not get pushed on by the crowd....it has an intense and (surreal) story. 

I had her in my arms and as we were heading out to the main gate, she turned back over my shoulder and started to speak, in first person....vivid and clear......I turned to look but there was no one there. At first I didn't think much of it, but the conversation continued.... and my ears caught a name. She was talking in first person and she was talking to her thatha (ravi's father) who had been dead for two years. That's when I froze..... goose bumps all over, and I asked her who she was talking to. She pointed out....and continued to talk....and I could also tell it was a dialogue, like ongoing question answer kind, and she was oblivious to the fact that I could see no one. And when she realized that person wasn't coming along with us, she started to cry and didn't want to go....and I started to cry because it was more than I could handle. It was too eerie and real at the same time.

I stopped and put her down, I had to respect her experience. We sat....and then I asked her to describe who she was talking to, and she told me like she was still seeing him. She said his full name, her grandfathers name which she didn't even know (she was just three), and at that point all doubt left, and I knew there was something unreal happening right there. She described him as an old man, white robes, friendly...who had taken her by hand, made her stand against the pillar and told her not to move....and that's why she had just waited there (and that's why we found her).

Even writing about it now is bringing tears to the eye. And the amazing thing was that, while we didn't know which temple this had happened in, when we walked into the temple yesterday (the second one we visited, as we were on the search) Diksha just knew it was the one. She could recall it all instance by instance, like it had just happened, even two girls asking her where her parents were and after a short chat just walking off.....and even recognizing the pillar she had stood by. It was very intense for both of us.

We spent a long time at the temple, found an isolated vantage point.......and then we sat together, in the pouring rain, quiet.....each in our own deep space, yet bonded by an indelible and mysterious experience........ and watched, even as it rained, the sun come out from behind the clouds.

Monday, October 17, 2016

How Travel Teaches

The (mis) adventure, in a sense, started at the word go...almost right from the moment I was to leave home.

Decision was to take a day bus..... an anytime preferred option, but especially so as I'd never done the Bangalore - Chennai stretch on road. I booked my cab on time, but there was a technical snag and the booking didn't get logged with the cab. Ten minutes of frantic effort and I realized there was no quick fix. So I started off by walk, a good distance to the nearest auto..... and as you can imagine, it wasn't a pleasant walk, what with luggage and being rushed.

I get to the bus stop, and the guy at the place says 'aap ka bus tho gayaa' (your bus has left).

I could only stare in disbelief....my watch showed 8.07, and the bus was scheduled for 8.10.....and I was left wondering if clock settings could have messed things up further. I was standing there wondering what next.... few minutes of total cluelessness. Then a bus drives in, and I was so relieved to hear that it was my bus after all..... the guy at the counter had made a mistake. Gosh, breathed again.


I reach Chennai at two, and then figure I need to get to a local bus stand to catch a bus to Mahabalipuram.  I ask around, and a guy there says it's just around the corner, very close......and I guess it was, except that with a bag, and straight off a six hour ride.....and in the blazing heat of Chennai it just didn't seem so close :(

I get to Koyemveedu bus stand, to find that the only buses to Mahabs are the rickety, open windowed, district buses. It was so hot I would have given a lot to get an air conditioned bus, but I decide to chance it....no energy to go searching.

And it turned out to be one of my craziest drives. I took the first seat behind the door. (rather the space for the door....there is no door :). At first it was exciting....but as you hit the east coast road which runs along the shore, you also realize what you need is not as much air conditioning, but basically a shutter to the window and the door, there was neither. I felt I was going to get blown off the bus.


And then there are the thoughts. If I can get the focus off the wind, and the dust, and the grime.....and look just beyond...there is the beauty of the road, the shore, and the sea.

If you can alter perspective....... you can alter the entire experience.

I did....so instead of getting off all dusty and upset and tired, I got off all excited, exhilarated and breathless. I was in perfect mood to see diksha and deepak who came to receive me.


They then took me through town.....through narrow winding streets of the fishermens colony..... and through a lane that seemed to reach straight into the sea, and was also entrance to Bob Marley's.


An eventful day...in terms of experience and learning. Stay focused on objective, and the little difficulties cease to distract...better still, look for the beauty in things, and chances are you'll see it :)