On Marriage

Admit it, that really caught your attention didn’t it? ;)

You wonder why? I think it’s because marriage is one arrangement that has mystified anyone and everyone, well, most anyone.

And that’s not surprising. A relationship between individuals can be one of the most beautiful experiences one can have………. yet marriage as we know it, can most times, drag even that through a rut. It comes so packed with expectations and conditions, that it can take the best of us down, alive and kicking. 

A little disclaimer at this point: this is not directed at an individual level, as we’re all, me included, part of that at an individual level. It’s against the presumed ownership and framework of conditions that the institution brings with it.

Life is about living and not existing; about being.....learning…..growing….evolving..…living. Towards that, our experiences need to empower us and not diminish us, right?  And freedom of choice at every point is pretty critical there. 

It’s a paradox. Relationships can really nurture, facilitate and empower. Yet, you bind one in, and all that wonderful energy gets redirected elsewhere.

Everyone knows all of this; yet the conditioning and societal expectation runs so deep that if anyone even dares say it, he is viewed as a problem, a quack, worse still a pervert. It’s almost like when Copernicus said the earth was not the center of the universe. Here you just about escape getting burnt at the stakes :) It’s like what people did to Osho, right? Pretty much ostracized him. So much so, one would be wary of even saying, that they thought Osho was brilliant….but know what? He really is.

To break free from that took so much out of me, that I now think I had to first break, before I could break free. And break I did. Not break as in go to pieces, we're all way too resilient for that, but breakthrough to a different level of awareness. Then the break free is almost like an automatic next step. It’s taken me all of these years from before and after to really resurface and acknowledge it.

And resurface to say:

When I’m coming back home from anywhere, its to a joy of freedom…….. freedom to live a normal day without a trace of conflict, sadness, guilt, anger or suppression.

Freedom to be....... to flow, to fall, to soar…..by choice