'Worry' is natural. It's familiar space. And sure.....it has it's place in life.
But I do believe it's got way too much space than it ought.
Is the inner drawing a circle?
Worry can actually do that. Tie up and make useless a significant part of your mind.
What's worked well for me: Can we distinguish between worrying over a 'controllable' and a 'non controllable'?
The controllable is part of 'vigilant' and 'concern'...pay attention, identify the issue, figure what you can do, do it....and stop the worrying.
The non controllable? Take a stand...... fully accept it. Dump the worry.
You'd be amazed at how much clutter gets thrown out of the mind, and how much space there is to focus on the more important stuff in life.....especially on the 'here and now'. A little tool with huge impact :)
But I do believe it's got way too much space than it ought.
Is the inner drawing a circle?
It actually is.......but seems irregular, right? When the mind is clogged, it has the ability to warp anything within, and I thought the picture brings that out beautifully.
Interestingly, the free dictionary.com traces the root of the word 'Worry' to 'Wyrgan' meaning 'to strangle'. (It's moments like this which make you realize just how intuitive the process of language evolution has been).
Worry can actually do that. Tie up and make useless a significant part of your mind.
But then, let's face it...life isn't necessarily a bed of roses, and so, worry is a pre-requisite. The irony of it is that even if it were a bed of roses, we'd still worry, as boredom can be as worrying as a complex problem is.
Worrying about a situation that's threatening, either circumstance or health or livelihood or whatever makes total sense. Worry enables you to get closer to the problem and then look for it's solution.
But unfortunately worry has a way of morphing from vigilance and concern into that unhealthy, all consuming space that evolves into a background preoccupation. And when you're worrying about issues or situations you have no control over, it's going to leave less space for worrying or thinking about issues that you do have control over. It sort of metaphorically strangles you.
What's worked well for me: Can we distinguish between worrying over a 'controllable' and a 'non controllable'?
The controllable is part of 'vigilant' and 'concern'...pay attention, identify the issue, figure what you can do, do it....and stop the worrying.
The non controllable? Take a stand...... fully accept it. Dump the worry.
You'd be amazed at how much clutter gets thrown out of the mind, and how much space there is to focus on the more important stuff in life.....especially on the 'here and now'. A little tool with huge impact :)
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